Hilary Grossman dated a guy so commitment-phobic that she was able to write a book about their relationship. She has an unhealthy addiction to denim and shoes. She loves to find humor in every day life. And she likens life to a game of dodgeball - she tries to keep many balls in the air before they smack her in the face. When she isn't writing or blogging she is the CFO of a beverage alcohol importer. She lives on Long Island.
Why do you write? How long have you been writing?
I hate sounding cliche but it is true. I write because I have to… Writing has become a part of my life. When I am troubled by something, writing about it helps me sort out my feelings. When I am sad, writing comforts me. And when something funny happens I just have to share it!
I started “really” writing about five years ago when I started my blog Feeling Beachie. I blogged as a way to practice writing. I knew I wanted to share the story about my attempt to convert a commitment-phobic man into a husband but I didn’t know if I had the wherewithal to actually stick to writing. After all, over the years I started many books and never finished them…
I instantly got hooked on blogging… and Dangled Carat soon followed.
Tell us a bit about your current project(s).
Dangled Carat is a humorous memoir about my relatable and emotionally draining relationship with a commitment phobic man. While it is a true story it reads like chick lit and features a cast of characters only real life could create. It is the perfect story for any girl who wondered if she should love him or dump him….
In addition on the weekends I am busy working on #2 – this time the story is 100% fiction. It is about a mother and daughter whose relationship has been destroyed by secrets, lies and misplaced blame. The mother is a rip – well to anyone but the daughter 🙂
What genres do you write? Which do you read?
I like to cross genres… Dangled Carat is a memoir but reads like chick lit fiction. Many people have commented that they didn’t realize the story was true until they read the acknowledgements at the end.
I am a very eclectic reader. I love chick lit, memoirs, romance, mystery, suspense, historical fiction, self help and business books… It all depends on my mood. The only genres I avoid are science fiction and poetry.
Do you self-pub, have a publisher or both?
I feel like I have had the best of both worlds. By self publishing I controlled the destiny of my book. Every decision was mine – cover, fonts, marketing efforts. I loved seeing my dream turn into a reality, especially knowing I made it happen.
But self publishing is hard. EVERYTHING falls on you and no matter how hard you work there is only 24 hours in a day and most of those hours have to be spent on non-book related activities. It is also very isolating, because let’s face it, no one in your “real life” really understands this crazy book world.
Booktrope is a hybrid publisher, and they utilize a team approach. The author still has a lot of control over the book, including approving the cover. But all the efforts related to the book no longer rest upon the authors shoulder. Instead the team works together. It is wonderful and I am completely loving working with such amazing and talented people.
Is there anything special you’ve got going on right now (or in the near future) that we should know about? Promotions, sales, etc?
Dangled Carat will be $0.99 from 11/14/14 – 11/21/14
Any advice for aspiring authors?
Focus on writing the best book that you can. Don’t worry about publishing or sales. There are so many opportunities for new authors now. But you can only take advantage of them if you have written the book.
Develop a thick skin. Expect rejection. It will come, especially if you query agents.
Don’t take negative reviews personally. I know it is hard to believe but not everyone will fall in love with your book. Some people will hate it and they be downright mean. Don’t let them get to you. Remember books are like food – we all can’t love the same thing. Just because I like my steak rare there is nothing wrong with the fact that you like yours well done.
Don’t be shy. Authors are the most generous people I know. They are so eager to offer their experiences and advice to help a newbie out. Take it.